“Why I Think Paul J. Griffiths Is Wrong About Homosexual Love and Homosexual Acts”
Dr. Mark S. Latkovic
April 7, 2014 [Slightly revised April 9, 2014]
Here’s Catholic theologian Paul J. Griffiths reviewing gay author Richard Rodriguez’s Darling: A Spiritual Autobiography in First Things, of all places, and making the case for the goodness of same-sex love and same-sex acts along the way: “I don’t agree with every position taken in Darling, or with every argument offered…On homosexuality and homosexual acts…I think Rodriguez much closer to being right than not. Insofar as such acts are motivated by and evoke love, they are good and to be loved; insofar as they do not, not. In this, they are no different from heterosexual acts.
There are other interesting differences between the two kinds of act. But if you think, as Rodriguez seems to, and I do, and all Catholics should, that we live in a devastated world in which no sexual acts are undamaged, free from the taint of sin and death and the concomitant need for lament, then the fact that homosexual acts have their own characteristic disorder is no ground for blindness to the goods they enshrine. Gay men should, of course, darling one another; those of us whose darlings are of the opposite sex should be glad that they do, and glad of instruction in love by the ways in which they do. Love is hard enough to come by in a devastated world without encouraging blindness to its presence.” (http://www.firstthings.com/article/2014/04/ulterior-lives)
Griffiths’ argument for the moral legitimacy of homosexual acts rides on love. It even brings back memories for me of the love-based “situation” ethics of old: the right act is the one that is the loving act in a particular situation. But what is love? How do we define it? What is its content? Griffiths assumes what needs to be proved: that homosexual acts can indeed be acts of love. They may be “motivated by” love, but, I argue, they are not capable of expressing authentic sexual love, i.e., conjugal love – the only kind of sexual love that is morally good and accepted by the Catholic Church.
I believe that we can apply what Vatican Council II’s Gaudium et spes, no. 51 teaches about the morality of the methods of birth control to this discussion of homosexual and heterosexual sexual love. When discussing “the moral aspects” of various methods, the Council Fathers argue that these do “not depend solely on sincere intentions or on an evaluation of motives, but must be determined by objective standards. These, based on the nature of the human person and his acts, preserve the full sense of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love.” [My emphases] So, it’s not enough to say, as Griffiths does, that “the acts are good and to be loved” if they “are motivated by and evoke love.” This notion of love is much too subjective (a “blank check”), however sincere the intentions or good the motives may be. It is incapable of being “true love” – that is, conjugal love – because it is unable to realize the inherent goods of conjugal love: “mutual self-giving” and “procreation.” Only a love that is directed toward those goods is objective and “based on the nature of the human person and his acts.” Only this love can take the form of sexual expression and be morally good in doing so. Griffiths’ understanding of love, however, is more in line with the false ideology of LGBT advocates who say, “Love is love.” Uh, but it’s not.
It’s also interesting how Griffiths can simply say that there are “interesting” differences between homosexual acts and heterosexual acts. Simply interesting? Interesting is a word I would use to describe the differences between the beaks of different kinds of birds, but not the sexual acts of homosexual and heterosexual couples. But it makes sense for him to do so if you grant his notion of love as some kind of amorphous (or aesthetic?) reality that doesn’t seem to have any defining and definite characteristics. Again, love is love.
Finally, Griffiths’ argument ends, or rather dissolves, in a kind of mysticism (from the Greek, “to conceal”) that is more mist than myth, when he speaks of how all of our sexual acts – homosexual and heterosexual – in this veil of tears are wounded in some fashion and thus in need of redemption. So true! Given this state of affairs, Griffiths continues, the “fact that homosexual acts have their own characteristic disorder is no ground for blindness to the goods they enshrine.” But that’s a non sequitur: While it is true that both kinds of sexual acts are disordered, it doesn’t follow that homosexual acts can ever be morally good, as heterosexual acts can be.
This view denies, as we pointed out, the obvious differences in kind, not simply in degree between same-sex love and heterosexual love. By nature, homosexual acts do not and cannot realize the goods of mutual self-donation and procreation. Nor can they realize the conjugal good itself and what Blessed Pope John Paul II termed the “spousal” or “nuptial” meaning of the body (There is no sexual complementarity to speak of with gay and lesbian unions). Hence, they are radically different kinds of acts, and not, as Griffiths claims, acts whose real differences don’t get in the way of recognizing the “presence” of homosexual love and appreciating its “instruction in love,” and whose morality depends on whether or not these acts are characterized by “love.” Yes, as granted, both kinds of love are damaged, as all goods and institutions are after the Fall. But only same-sex love is damaged in such a way that it can never be morally good to express it in sexual acts.
I agree with Griffiths that “love is hard enough to come by in a devastated world.” But is it truly love that we are speaking of? If it is, what kind of love is it? We have to settle those questions first. If this love is a chaste celibate love between two men or two women, then I have no doubt that it can be fulfilling in some real sense. But if it is a love that involves sexual activity, then that “love” cannot be authentic and is doomed ultimately to failure and sadness. This will be a hard pill to swallow for those who identify their sexual orientation as gay or lesbian. But coming to terms with it is an aspect of what their true good consists of. And with all my heart, I really want that good for them, as does the Catholic Church. Nevertheless, all men and women, whether “gay” or “straight,” are called to chastity. It’s just that this virtue takes different forms depending on one’s personal vocation and “state of life.”
I hope and pray that as a Catholic theologian, Paul Griffiths will come to see things differently and recognize both the moral as well as the anthropological differences between same-sex love and opposite-sex love. Only the latter kind of love can be sexually expressed, because only it can be conjugal.